Monday, May 26, 2008

baby mine.

I have spent most of this pregnancy not thinking about the small boy growing inside of me, but about how his big sister will cope with the changes that he will bring to her world. How will she adjust to not being our only baby? How will she cope with giving up her crib? What the heck am I going to do with her while I am nursing a newborn?!?

For a month now, a shiny new toddler bed has sat assembled and unused in Claire's room. A few feet away, is her crib. I know I need to remove the crib. To pull the band aid off quickly. She will manage in the big girl bed. But after the first night of trying out the toddler bed, and hearing her cry, "Mah chib! Mah chib!" I just haven't wanted to tackle it. Also, the baby's room is an unbelievable pile of things that need a home and the unisex remains of Claire's infancy. At the moment, there is no where to put the chib, even if I could rip it from her clutches.

Here's what I know. Second pregnancy goes fast. My boy reminds me every day that he's here, with his big, huge needs. Ready or not, he's coming.


And always, there's her. Practicing huggies on her babies, planning to give him baths and cottage cheese. Reaching her arms up to me and saying, "uppie, Mama." Already sharing me in small ways even if she doesn't know it yet.

12 comments:

Joshua & Valerie said...

Ditto, ditto. What's it going to be like with two? How's Makayla going to cope? How am I going to cope?? I think we're going to do two cribs. We'll wait until a bit closer to my due date, but I don't think Makayla (read: me, either!) will be ready for a "big girl" type of bed. I think she'll still need confinement. I just see her waking up in the middle of the night and tearing apart her room, walking around during nap time... Keep us posted on how the "big girl" bed works!!

Alida said...

You bring back such beautiful memories for me. We lived in a 3 bedroom apartment. The big kids each had a room and Luke was in his crib in our room for his first year of life(and then some.) We decided to group the kids by age rather than sex. Two older together, two younger together.

With Isabela's approaching birth, I feared he would feel like we disposed of him and put him all alone in his own room. At 15 months (a mere 3 months before his sister's arrival.) We did it! We put him in his own room. We made a big deal about it.

I spent the better part of the 3 months, sitting in the glider next to his crib (until he fell asleep, feel asleep again and again...)

I have to say looking back, he was fine. It was me and my guilt that were having issues. And yet, when I see them playing together, their concern for each other, how much they love each other, my heart just wants to burst.

You and Valerie, will just be fine. I know you know that and my saying it doesn't change a thing. I feel such affection for both of you.

BTW: Don't be shocked if after a few days she wants to return him. There'll come a day when she won't remember her life without him:)

Joshua & Valerie said...

That was sweet, Alida. It's so nice to have friends who have been there, done that and others who are going through the same stage of life with me (or just a couple of months ahead of me!!)

Their Giant said...

Me too, Alida. I thought about your comment all day today and there really is something comforting in having friends that have been through this craziness before.

curly said...

As for your last comment, Kar, that's how other people feel about you. Cough, cough. Ahem.

Thanks for letting me learn from you. :)

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